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Sexual solicitations can sometimes lead to harmful relationships with adults. These individuals may attempt to earn your trust by providing affection, attention, gifts, or other incentives.

In some cases, they might even suggest meeting in person. You could also encounter someone online whose conversation quickly shifts to inappropriate or sexual topics.

This behavior, known as grooming, can be hard to recognize. While many of your friends—both online and offline—genuinely care about you, not everyone has your best interests at heart. That’s why it’s crucial to stay cautious and alert to inappropriate requests

If you suspect your friend is being groomed, it’s important to act thoughtfully and carefully. Here’s what you can do:

Talk to your friend: Approach them gently and express your concern. Let them know you’re there to support them without judgment. Avoid being confrontational, as this might make them defensive.

Encourage them to seek help: Suggest trusted adults, counselors, or organizations that can provide guidance. If they’re hesitant, offer to help them connect with these resources.

Document concerning behavior: If you notice specific actions or messages from the adult involved, keep a record. This can be helpful if authorities need evidence.

Report the situation: If you believe your friend is in immediate danger or the grooming is escalating, report it to local authorities, a cyber tipline, or organizations specializing in child protection.

Stay supportive: Grooming can be emotionally manipulative, and your friend might struggle to see the situation clearly. Be patient and continue to offer your support.

Your actions could make a huge difference in protecting your friend.

It’s great that you’re thinking carefully about this—it shows you’re looking out for your safety, which is so important. Here are some steps to consider:

Pause and reflect: Take a moment to think about this person’s intentions. Have they been respectful and honest? Do you feel completely comfortable with them?

Talk to someone you trust: Share this with a trusted adult, like a parent, teacher, or counselor. They can help you assess the situation and guide you.

Meet in a safe, public place: If you decide to meet, make sure it’s in a busy, public location. Bring a friend or family member with you, and let others know where you’ll be.

Set boundaries: Be clear about what you’re comfortable with and stick to those boundaries. If anything feels off, trust your instincts.

Stay in control: Keep your phone charged and with you at all times. Have a plan to leave if you feel unsafe.

Be cautious with personal information: If you haven’t already, avoid sharing sensitive details like your address, school, or anything that could compromise your safety.

Your safety is the top priority. If anything about this situation feels wrong or makes you uneasy, it’s okay to step back and say no. You deserve to feel safe and respected.